Now, during MND Awareness Week, Pat is sharing her diagnosis with the progressive terminal illness to help raise awareness of the condition and challenge some of the misconceptions around MND.
Born in 1939, Pat was raised and educated in Dundee and has spent her life working all over Europe. After working for her father’s companies in Dundee and Dublin, she later pursued her own career in London, then moving to Italy for 15 years to manage villas.
But in 1984, Pat moved back to Dundee to open an off-license with her father. When her father passed away in 1985, Pat decided to turn the store into a ladies’ nightwear and underwear shop.
She ran her business for 15 years, retiring in 1999 where she spent her time with her many friends and her dog Hattie. She has also spent her time as a prominent figure within the local ‘Friends of Magdalen Green’ community group - a project to protect and enhance the city's Magdalen Green park.
But Pat was left shocked when she was diagnosed with MND just 9 months ago.
MND is a rapidly progressing terminal illness, which stops signals from the brain reaching the muscles. This may cause someone to lose the ability to walk, talk, eat, drink or breathe unaided.
Pat said: “Last January I lost my dog and I was very upset. Around the same time, I noticed that I was beginning to slur my speech when I was talking. I went to see the GP but the doctor thought it was grief. But when the GP discovered that I had lost a stone in weight, she started looking for different causes.
“Shortly after this I started having issues with my left hand and I had a few trips and falls. My left foot started dropping down and I tripped and I split my head open on the pavement at the top of my street. Thankfully my neighbour was on the other side of the road and saw me and we went to Ninewells hospital.”
Despite suffering a nasty fall, Pat’s disposition and her unique character mean that she never allows the negatives of her diagnosis get in her way of her seeing the humorous side of life.
“I was still conscious - but I was totally embarrassed to hell! When I got to Ninewells they stitched me up and sent me home. I also fell in the garden at home – but that was stupidity. I had on welly boots which were too big and I ran to answer the phone and I landed straight on my face – come on!
“A physiotherapist then came to see me. They took one look and straight back to the doctor. After that I was sent to the neurologist for some tests.
“I thought I had suffered a mini stroke but the doctor thought otherwise. I was sent to neurology and they had me in for a week of intensive tests. The gentleman who saw me asked if I had heard of motor nerves and it clicked. I asked him if it was Motor Neurone Disease, but he said he couldn’t say yet.
“I had heard of MND, many years ago, but it never really sunk-in. But when I saw MND campaigner Gordon Aikman on TV I just started assuming. I was hoping it wasn’t MND but if it was I thought there’s no choice but to get on with it."
It was in September that Pat’s diagnosis was confirmed.
“I was on my own when they told me that it was MND. I was really upset, but my attitude was, no matter what it is, you’ve just to get on with it and live life from day to day. I try not to be a burden to anybody – what else you can do – but give me a dog!”
Pat’s good friend Rhoda has stuck by Pat on every step of the journey.
Rhoda said: “We’re all led by Pat. I think that Pat, if anybody was to say anything to her, would just say: ‘don’t be ridiculous, that’s the way I’m dealing with it and that’s that.”
Pat said: “I can’t see any other way of doing it. I suppose this has been my attitude all my life, if you have an upset, try your best to knock it back and get on.”
“I was brought up as the middle child, with an older brother and a younger brother. I had to grow up fending for myself, the only girl amongst the boys. I think that has a lot to do with my attitude towards life.”
Despite her strong-willed nature and her good-humoured disposition Pat has had to face some lack of understanding of MND and what being diagnosed with the condition means.
During MND Awareness Week, MND Scotland is running a ‘myth-busting’ campaign to help challenge some of the misconceptions around MND.
Rhoda said: “It would be fair to say that some of Pat’s friends don’t grasp the reality of Pat’s situation. It’s just a lack of understanding of MND.”
Pat said: “It’s just surprising how many people have never heard of it.
“I get some people who say, ‘you’ll feel better when the good weather comes in’. I say, my ‘Dad said that. He died’. But on the whole, they tend to overprotect and that’s what you don't want. You want to keep your independence as long as you can.
“I still live on my own, that’s important to me. I’ve been on my own since I was 18. I spent 2 years living with my mother in-between and that was hell!
“I’m not able to do things that I would like to do. My worst complaint is my voice. I can’t walk very far now and I have to be very careful where I put my feet. I get tired easily and when I get tired my speech gets worse.
“I know that there’s going to come a time that I’m house-bound and that I’m going to need carers – but I want to hang on to my independence as long as possible.
“If I was explaining MND to somebody, I would say that MND is a debilitating disease that you never want to get. I’m 78 years old – I’ve had a very good life. I’m one of the lucky ones.”
Since her diagnosis, Pat has been supported by the charity MND Scotland and she is grateful for the support she has received.
“I’m very happy with MND Scotland, I think the support is fantastic. I go to the MND Scotland Support Group in Dundee which is so interesting to see different people, of different ages, at different stages of MND.
“My friend Rhoda takes me and I have so many wonderful friends who are always looking out for me, but I don’t want to impose on them, I get so much help from everybody that you don't want to go over the top if you can help it.
“I haven't had a single day, since I was diagnosed, that I haven't had somebody visit me – I think that’s fantastic.”
Visit mndscotland.org.uk/MNDaware for more information about MND Scotland’s ‘Myth-Busting MND’ campaign.
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